Fake Bake Friday
Tonight I have a beautiful bunch of ladies booked in for a Fake Bake Party at Home. I love these parties firstly they are always fun because it’s a bunch of friends having a night in together, secondly I get to do what I love and finally I know the confidence a tan can bring to any woman wearing one! Natural or fake!
I really enjoy my job and I love that I can work with brand who’s ethos, support and messages of safety and empowerment continue to shine through. Fake Bake was the first brand I chose when I trained in spray tanning back in 2007 and whilst I have trained with other brands since, in my experience my clients are happier with the menu and services I am able to offer using the Fake Bake Brand.
Their current empowering charity campaign for the summer is to get women truly embracing some self love and confidence and I couldn’t be happier. They are asking everyone to get involved #SaveYourSelfie and share it online and get others involved too! There are even Fake Bake Prizes up for Grabs!
Through the campaign and their ongoing work Fake Bake will be supporting the charities RAFT and Coppafeel, you can read lots more about the charities, support and fake bakes ongoing campaign of confidence in their latest summer magazine by clicking the image below.
Now My Turn
Fake Bake put it to us therapists to dig a little deeper and share our stories.
Most see those within the beauty industry beautified, beaming and full of confidence, ready and able to take on the world. The reality my tan, nails and make up are often the boosts I need to be able to step out into the world.
I Lost All My Confidence At School
I went to an all girls school where my best friends created lists of size/beauty/hair/popularity/possessions and ranked us…I don’t think I ever came in top 3. They also gave me nicknames I’d laugh at despite not understanding and then they would wait a few months to humiliate me by explaining exactly how they were taking the piss. I was a Tom boy only child who at the point didn’t know/care how to make myself beautiful or to care for myself properly. I did myself no favours and as a result spent 5 years with these friends, constantly longing to be accepted and included.
The summer I broke up from year 11 I got diagnosed with depression and their constant out casting and jibes and taken a massive toll on my self confidence. I spent a summer with a different group of friends (much to my mums horror she knew none of them) and I learnt to ROYALLY NOT GIVE A FUCK! I found out that actually once school finished any link with these losers was null and void and that their petty attitudes wouldn’t actually take them far in the real world. I also learnt to look after myself, I presented myself better, I became more like a girl than a tomboy, emo, or whatever other stage I went through.
I did get my own back a little I remember bumping in to one of the most popular girls at a club a couple of years later (funny thing is I had loads of real mates having a total laugh and she looked a misery by the toilets) as I went to the loos she stopped me and said “why did you stop talking to us?” to which I replied (rather smugly) “oh I am surprised your head is out your arse to notice, but to be honest we all know you all hated me so why fake it any longer” and walked off! I will say it’s important to find a point where you let go of anger from others opinions, I let them define me for so long, I tried to be so many different things just to be accepted and none of it worked because I’d lost me!
I Started Working In The Hair & Beauty Industry
HAHA the irony that this little grot bag tomboy got a job as a Saturday junior in a hair salon, a job that taught me so much about how I present myself, the real world, working relationships and my love for people! I then went on to get a part time job in House of Fraser and within 18 months was managing and merchandising two small matts French Connection and Miss Sixty, I was also the first to get recognition and training direct from the brands and a uniform supplied by them for me and the team I worked with. I learnt in this role I could be powerful, if I was confident in my applying my learning and knowledge and applying my people skills!
I then took this confidence and applied for a job in the beauty industry, an industry where experience was always required but rarely given and an industry of very made up and beautiful people. I don’t know how I done it but I got a job with Estée Lauder, I worked my arse off to prove I could learn and do exactly as they wanted, I showed them ways I’d apply what I’d learnt so far in retail and branding to their principals and beliefs. I got the job!
It was hard, scary, I was petrified of making people over to begin with, I got lost in the routines, right words and link sales. But I persisted, I learnt so much and I excelled. I worked with a team of great girls with years of experience between them and I’m so lucky they were the first team I got to work with they nurtured me, built up my confidence and taught me tonnes on self love and BEAUTY!!
I then went on to work for Christian Dior, my manager was an awesome women, who has the best name, who is still my friend today. Steph (to save confusion I call her big weff) made me learn so much, supported me in becoming confident with make up, made me value myself more and was just a hugely supportive bundle of fun , she made me laugh all the time and made up a lot of what I had lost. I don’t think she even realises this now (shit I’m crying… She will laugh at that!).
This is a long time ago and lots of things have happened since, many of which I could of included to show how believing in myself, having support and mustering up confidence can make dramatic differences to your life. But this is where it all started for me that realisation different chapters in our life hold different stories, people, challenges and adventures and I get the pleasure of chosing how I write mine.
You see after a chapter of my life in which my self confidence was battered, bruised and I was questioning everything about myself. I went on to a chapter of finding myself, confidence and the chance to surround myself with women who could teach me just that! I feel very lucky for that opportunity and I feel passionate about continuing that through my work now. Whether talking one to one with a client, making everyone feel comfortable at a pamper party, telling a woman about my surf board body and non existence boobs to make them feel ok stripping off for a tan, I do groups in schools working with teen girls, I am about to launch a series of workshops for mums and women in business, and I blog about life and works through my blogs, whilst having an awesome adventure along the way.
Self confidence really is continuously learnt we live in a world where many outlets are trying to take that confidence away, when I first shared my selfie over on Instagram this is what I wrote about my go to for self confidence now.
“For me my confidence boost is colour! Whether that’s a bright top, a tan, nails, lipstick or bronzer, I need colour just to give me the boost make me look alive (3 kids ya know!!) and give my confidence its daily Boost.”
I would love for you to get involved, share what makes you confident and a gorgeous selfie. As well as doing the #SaveYourSelfie please also include #BeYouBeautiful if you took part because of me. Not because I am vain or getting any reward, but because I want to smile knowing you read this and are empowering others because of it too!
Have a fab day beautiful!
I said briefly about being diagnosed with depression this has been reoccurring and something I can discuss and asses quite openly. However it’s not that easy for everyone and I wouldn’t have come as far as I have without the fantastic support and help of Mind, if you need hep and support I really do recommend reaching out to them.